Consent Issues in Action
[Netflix Original series]
Watch: 9m50s -- 10m30s
This couple demonstrate some interesting consent collisions... what happened here for each of them? How can this couple more actively seek consent in their relationship?
Ted tries to woo his dermatologist, Stella. Pursuits fail as she sets professional/personal boundaries (for a while). Lots of gender role stuff here, lots of "persistence pays off" messaging. For her part, Stella sends mixed signals.
Also, see these on youtube:
Sneeches by Dr. Seuss [youtube]
Animated group think, stigma, and the social construction of morality
Frederick by Leo Lionni [youtube]
If you have ADHD, watch this and take it in :)
Buffy tempers her reaction to her friend, Willow, coming out as female-attracted; Willow confronts her friend's bias
Buffy Tidbit -- this was the first show to capture a female-female kiss [youtube]
The following TV series model relationships that openly affirm unique identities and mental health needs:
The Good Doctor (Dr. Shaun Murphy, who has Autism, in relationship with his neighbor, Lea, herself with personal challenges)
This Is Us (Randall and Beth - Randall's anxiety; Kate and Toby - eating disorders)
Love (Mickey and Gus navigate through relational differences and Mickey's recovery from alcoholism)
Hugely important study. Shows child vying for attention from his primary caregiver (mom).
Measuring Attachment: Strange Situation [youtube]
Hugely important study. Shows young children exhibit attachment styles in the face of relationally anxiety provoking . Relate to any of these kids? nb. questionable research ethics, I hope the kids got unlimited therapy for participation.
Food for thought- Why do we continue to praise The Giving Tree as a children's story? This sends a message that is a bit too self-sacrificial (some might use the term "co-dependent")
Good visual diagram and explanation
Interview of Stephen Porges by Bulletproof (Published Dec. 1, 2015)
Stress Response explained
Audio Show: Relationship Alive
The Fight Flight Freeze Response [youtube]
Amygdala Hijack & Emotional Intelligence [youtube]
How childhood trauma affects health across a lifetime | Nadine Burke Harris [youtube]
Healing & coping strategies, thoughts, resources, etc.
Wisdom from one of the greats... coping in the face of tragedy
Living Like You Mean It: Use the Wisdom and Power of Your Emotions to Get the Life You Really Want
by Ronald J. Frederick [book]
Sit a Lot? Learn How to Sit well
More on breathing
Let's get motivated to learn new techniques I want what she's having!
"Sympathetic Overdrive" is a modern energy drain, decreases functionality; Three exercises to breathe better and return to calm
Other self care:
Good sleep hygiene, mediation apps such as relaxation,
Nutrition for various conditions- forum
Spoon Theory-- rationing your energy
Fun facts and fixes:
Chew gum- it increases focus and improves mood (activates nervous system)
Singing is good for you, singing with others increases positive bonding feelings and cooperativity
Pets make great companions!
The World's Most Extraordinary Homes [Netflix]
Needing Calming entertainment? Notwithstanding some cultural bias, this show is very safe watching and relaxing.
Mood Music channels on Spotify
Inspiring for those with chronic illness
Meditation apps: 10% Happier, Calm,